Marriage

Marriage Preparation

 

          So that the 'I do' of the spouses may be a free and responsible act and so that the marriage covenant may have solid and lasting human             and Christian foundations, preparation for marriage is of prime importance.
                 -- CCC 1632

Marriage Preparation at Saint Bernard's includes:

  • Contacting the parish 6-12 months prior to desired marriage date

  • Several meetings with the Priest who presides.

  • Meetings to discuss the pre-marriage inventory.

  • Diocese of Fort Wayne-South Bend 3-component requirements outlined here

  • Liturgy guideline video.

  • One meeting with the Music Director.

God who created man out of love also calls him to love, the fundamental and innate vocation of every human being. For man is created in the image and likeness of God who is himself love.  Since God created him man and woman, their mutual love becomes an image of the absolute and unfailing love with which God loves man. It is good, very good, in the Creator's eyes.
--CCC 1604

A Christian wedding is a public liturgy of the entire Church.  Marriage is a sacrament that strengthens the man and woman in the life of Christ to be a sign to the world of God's love for his people.  With the grace of Christ, the love of the married couple brings forth fruitfulness for the entire Church.  

Marriage is a Covenant

 

The Sacrament of Marriage is a covenantal union in the image of the covenants between God and his people with Abraham and later with Moses at Mt. Sinai. This divine covenant can never be broken. In this way, marriage is a union that bonds spouses together during their entire lifetime.

 

The sacrament of Matrimony signifies the union of Christ and the Church. It gives spouses the grace to love each other with the love with which Christ has loved his Church; the grace of the sacrament thus perfects the human love of the spouses, strengthens their indissoluble unity, and sanctifies them on the way to eternal life. 
- CCC 1661

The love in a married relationship is exemplified in the total gift of one’s self to another. It’s this self-giving and self-sacrificing love that we see in our other model of marriage, the relationship between Christ and the Church.

 

Marriage is based on the consent of the contracting parties, that is, on their will to give themselves, each to the other, mutually and definitively, in order to live a covenant of faithful and fruitful love. 
- CCC 1662

The Church takes the lifelong nature of the Sacrament of Marriage seriously. The Church teaches that a break in this covenant teaches goes against the natural law of God:

The remarriage of persons divorced from a living, lawful spouse contravenes the plan and law of God as taught by Christ. They are not separated from the Church, but they cannot receive Eucharistic communion. They will lead Christian lives especially by educating their children in the faith. 
- CCC 1665

Marriage Reflects the Holy Trinity

We believe that God exists in eternal communion. Together, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are united in one being with no beginning and no end. Human beings, likewise, were created by God in God’s image for the purpose of communion with another human being.

 

The Catechism of the Catholic Church states,

The Christian family is a communion of persons, a sign and image of the communion of the Father and the Son in the Holy Spirit. 
- CCC 2205 

The Sacrament of Marriage is “unitive, indissoluble and calls us to be completely open to fertility.”  Christian marriage, when lived rightly, is a reflection of God’s self-giving love expressed between the love of two people.